Review of Everybody Always, by Bob Goff

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I seem to have this funny theme in my life of always running into Bob Goff, but never meeting him.  It’s honestly hilarious at this point the number of times we’ve been in the same room.  A couple years ago I went to lunch at work, and he was also eating lunch there.  This past year, I attended three different conferences in three different states, in which, Bob spoke at all three.  So here’s my faithful pledge next time, I’ll say hi.

I was eager to start Everybody Always as I loved Bob’s first book, Love Does in 2015.  I also loved Maria (Bob’s wife) Goff’s Love Lives Here.  (Read my review here.)  I love listening to audiobooks on long drives or while folding laundry, and when I learned Everybody Always was recorded on Audible by Bob himself, I downloaded right away.

This book focuses on “becoming love.”  And I love that about Bob Goff.  Having crossed paths with him many times, I have been able to see that for him, it’s not about understanding love or having a correct definition of love, it’s about stepping out and becoming.  When I heard him speak at the past couple conferences a line he said got under my skin- not because I disagreed, but because I felt so challenged and compelled.

“Go.  Go and find the people that creep you out the very most and love them.”

I had just read Brené Brown’s Braving the Wilderness (review here) challenging me to “move in” because people are “hard to hate close up.”  And Bob Goff’s words reminded me of how often I fall short of loving “those people.”

When we draw a bigger circle around us in the world like grace did, God’s loving kindness gives us bigger and newer identities.

I love Bob’s writing style and even have used it as an example at writer’s conferences when some more tenured friends just cannot seem to understand “those Millennials.”  (Funny how sometimes we, ourselves, are the ones people have to walk across the line to love.)  He tells wild and crazy stories that made me laugh, cry, and have chills all over.  Then, he draws connections to the nature and character of God and who He calls us to be packing many heavier punches than I ever thought possible.

Sometimes when we ask God for an answer, He sends us a friend.

Jesus promised to be a voice they could trust.  All they had to do was run toward it.

Bob simplifies what we overcomplicate emphasizing the theme that Jesus never gathered people around Him to agree with Him; instead, He gathered people around Him to go and be like Him.  Bob challenges believers to love bravely, deeply, and to never overlook our own personal transformation in the process.


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Review of “Swipe Right” by Levi Lusko

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Let me be honest.  I was hesitant to read this book for a couple reasons.  First of all, 2017 has made me a graphic design snob and I kind of felt like the tattoo inspired cover felt a little 2009.  Don’t act like you don’t judge a book by its cover.  We all do.

But on a much deeper level, I was afraid of reading this book because of its subject matter- love, sex, and dating.  Being a single girl and working in student ministry, I am constantly exposed to questions and very poor answers surrounding these topics.  Answers that reinforce gender stereotyping, answers that minimize,  answers that cover up, answers that don’t address enough, answers that are falling short in a culture that keeps asking more and more questions or simply assumes the Bible has nothing to offer.

In steps Levi Lusko.

I grew up on the tail end of the True Love Waits revolution and I read it all- Lady in Waiting, Captivating, Wild at Heart, Every Young Woman’s Battles, Soul Virgins, even I Kissed Dating Goodbye, so needless to say my expectations were low.

Lusko walked a tight line between cultural relevance and Biblical applications seamlessly with iconic imagery, metaphors, and word plays.

Employing the phrase “Swipe Right” from Tinder, a common dating app, Lusko displayed much deeper issues beneath dating culture without straying away from tackling difficult questions.  He described Biblical characters like Moses and Eve “swiping right” by choosing what they wanted to do in the moment, rather than what was right or eternally better for them.  Each of these characters faced consequences for their actions, but their stories do not simply end in shame and consequences, rather grace and redemption similar to our own.

At the risk of some cheesy word pictures, Swipe Right is a great read with incredible insights on dating culture that can greatly resource students, young adults, or anyone who interacts with anyone who is dating or facing temptation.

Review of Cherish: Cultivating Relationships with Parents, Friends, Guys, And More

cherishCherish: Cultivating Relationships with Parents, Friends, Guys, And More by Vicki Courtney

In case you don’t read any further, let me go ahead and say that if you work with  or are raising girls, specifically teenage girls, this is a book to have on your shelf.

The week before this book made it to me, I was approached by a mom on how to handle a situation with a girl she knew that was sending inappropriate photos to a boy.  After our conversation, she asked if there was any good resource to share and I was at a loss.

What book is even up to date enough, I thought, to be able to talk about the expectation girls feel to send photos, better yet all of the other pressures they face?

And the very night I received this book I was planning to talk to my girls about relationships with parents, but again was at a loss as to what a good resource would be to be able to share with them.

Needless to say, Cherish met me exactly where I needed it to, and if you work with girls, I’m sure it can meet you in the same way.  Also, if you are a middle school or high school girl, go ahead and click that picture above and press purchase.


 

Cherish reads a good bit like Seventeen Magazine to me.  It’s full of quizzes, “5 Ways to Know if…”, and other fun articles.  Within the topics of Parents, Friends, Guys, and God, Vicki provides a variety of short little articles and snippets that are quick to read, insightful, and hit on a wide variety of topics all geared toward about a 7-9th grade reading level.


I     L O V E: 

  • This book hits on a wide variety of topics.
    Specifically within the context of families, Pam Gibbs provides some great insights on and advice for living in a family with non-believing parents, growing up in a blended family, an unsafe home environment, etc.  I love seeing a resource that approaches families with some intersectionality.
  • The boys chapter isn’t all about your husband.
    Few things bother me more than a resource emphasizing the value of purity that solely focus on the effect your present purity will have on your future husband.  Instead, Cherish talks about the risk of STDs along with the very present ramifications of sexual impurity, while taking a beautifully redemptive approach to such a difficult issue.
  • It’s up to date.
    Let me tell you as a small group leader to 16 year olds, if your book talks about life and doesn’t talk about Instagram, it truly hasn’t talked about anything.
  • It shares some hard truths about friends.
    I think teenage girl-hood is such an important time to recognize and practice what healthy friendships are.  Articles included touch on some hard truths of friendship- even when it’s time to let go of one.
  • It takes on the uncharted territory of teenage hormones.
    From mood swings to shame and everything in between, articles included touch on putting words to the craziness of a teenage girl’s brain hormone wise and even how to interact with parents about it!

 

I     D O N ‘ T     L O V E:

  • QR codes.
    Some videos can be found  online as a supplemental resource to Cherish, but they are linked through QR codes in the book.  I personally hate QR codes, because I never have enough memory on my phone to download a QR scanning app.